Thanksgiving and Christmas can be a beautiful time of gathering and gratitude, but for many, it’s also a time to ask: Who do I really want to spend it with? And what traditions truly serve me? Whether you’re shaking things up with non-traditional celebrations or setting new boundaries, Not S*rry means embracing every woman’s right to redefine her holidays however she sees fit. Here are some authentic ways real women are reimaging Thanksgiving and the holiday season.  

Gretchen Giles, Former Journalist, and PR Professional says, “Thanksgiving in our household is a fluid affair, ever-changing depending on who’s traveling, who’s around, and whom we feel like spending time with.” She says flexibility is a key element during her holiday season. Her Thanksgiving mornings start with a meditative beach walk—a way to set the tone for the day. Most of the cooking happens the day before, freeing her to decorate a gorgeous table and arrange a stylish bar setup. Once the guests leave, she indulges in her favorite ritual: a peaceful cannabis joint by the fireplace, finishing the final swirl of whipped cream from the bowl, chatting with her husband, and reflecting on their shared blessings. 

Melissa Dennis, a Military Veteran and Grad School Student, decided to ditch the typical family Thanksgiving last year and instead set out on an adventure. “We hiked the Narrows in Zion National Park, fully immersed in nature while thinking about everything we were grateful for.” Taking a non-traditional route allowed Melissa to honor the holiday in her own way, a refreshing shift from the usual big family dinners. 

Empowerment means choosing what makes you feel most alive, and that’s exactly what Melissa did. 

For Sarah H., Entrepreneur and Mother, Thanksgiving is a lively mix of kids, parents, siblings, and tons of food—but her family’s take on the traditional meal is anything but typical. “As an Asian American family, we love our turkey and stuffing, but the real stars of our table are lobster noodles, steamed fish, and my mother-in-law’s homemade beef soup.” For Sarah, Thanksgiving is about celebrating her cultural heritage while enjoying the company of loved ones. Vitality comes from embracing both tradition and innovation—just like Sarah’s family feast. 

Not all traditions are sacred, and setting boundaries is essential. We’ve all been there: holiday traditions that feel obligatory rather than joyful. Sarah, for one, has decided to keep Christmas morning strictly for her nuclear family. It’s been a game-changer. No more stress of hosting extended family or rushing around. It’s just about her husband and kids, and she says it’s perfect.  

We invite you to rethink what Thanksgiving and the holiday season mean for you. Whether you’re spending it surrounded by family, hiking through national parks, or simply finding joy in solitude, there’s no wrong way to celebrate. No apologies are needed. What matters is how you choose to make it your own.